“Dear Chuck: saying toodles to one's first long-term boyfriend is difficult, but this letter marks the end of your tight psychological grip on me. Your worst egregious abuse of my sheltered palate was to make me sign that Purchase Obscure Really New Music Only Manifesto (or, PORNMOM). The declaration had its good points: I didn't mind offloading Tortoise's oeuvre, and I admit that I bought Dean War”